tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075865080526818949.post8055917704424209570..comments2023-05-20T05:42:29.896-04:00Comments on The Diary of a Dessert Lover: Poking and ProddingDeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02517728358720994347noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075865080526818949.post-7144838599387018752009-08-23T22:11:34.904-04:002009-08-23T22:11:34.904-04:00Andy - Thanks for your insight! I think you were ...Andy - Thanks for your insight! I think you were right. We had an episode on our trip, and we talked about it. <br /><br />Greears - Thanks for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response. I try to be honest with him, without reading too much into things. I guess guys like to be able to fix things, and when it's something that's bothering me that we can do something about, it can be easier to deal with. <br /><br />We had a mishap on our trip, and I was frustrated, and kinda just cried and let it out. We talked about it, and the rest of our trip was a lot more enjoyable. Sometimes, it's hard to talk about issues can show our vulnerability, but I guess you don't get the chance to work together to fix it if it's not brought up. :)Deshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02517728358720994347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075865080526818949.post-32458698071380523232009-07-17T17:18:34.108-04:002009-07-17T17:18:34.108-04:00It sounds to me that you have taken the next step ...It sounds to me that you have taken the next step in your relationship, whether you realize it or not. You've been together long enough to annoy each other! Congrats!<br /><br />These things happen and they are rarely personal. If a guy does not get time to himself, alone, he gets moody. Between the jet lag and the time together it sounds like he needed space. No big whop and nothing personal. <br /><br />As far as your opening up: he can't love you if you don't, because he won't know you. That said, you don't need to share everything with him. It's the balance. I have found that the only emotional stuff men really want to hear about are things they can do something about. "I love it when you text me." is a good example. He can do that and know he is making you happy. "You hurt my feelings when you went to lunch with Valda and left me hanging." True, but he can't do anything about it. Akward moments ensue. Apology happens. <br /><br />Question is, can that be accepted and can I let it go? Yes, because we've had a lot of good things leading up to that and now I will never bring it up again. He trusts me on that. He is not in the habit of leaving me hanging. I forgive. Done.<br /><br />Does that make sense? "I'm nervous meeting your family." is a reasonable expression. He can't do anything about it, but he knows where you are at. <br /><br />"I can't believe you are dragging me over to your family for the evening!" is just bitchy. It expresses fear, but is not talking at all about fear. See what I mean?<br /><br />It sounds like things are going great. Enjoy it!Greearshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13619499866187227222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7075865080526818949.post-68601366648790575452009-07-13T17:24:04.322-04:002009-07-13T17:24:04.322-04:00We all have our bad days, maybe that was one of hi...We all have our bad days, maybe that was one of his. Don't take it personally.<br /><br />And well, he seems a very nice guy, it's ok to let him see that side of you that you keep hidden.Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05814420505255964223noreply@blogger.com